Reasons You Aren't Starting the Decision Making Process About Whether To Get a Divorce Or Stay Married

Karl Augustine

Along with any tough decision comes reluctance, especially when that decision involves an actual process and might potentially involve emotional pain or anguish. Deciding whether or not to get a divorce or stay married can be a frightening time for most people, even if they know deep inside themselves that they have to actually make a decision, one way or another.People are reluctant to embark on an 'emotionally driven' decision making process because they fear that it will be uncomfortable or painful for them. The irony here is obvious...if they need to make this decision, their life or a portion if it, is already uncomfortable. One thing is for certain, deciding whether to get a divorce or stay married is indeed a process.This process, like any other, includes key elements…elements that need to be examined. The elements of this process are self-revealing and can only come from within the person making the decision.

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Reasons For Divorce; What Constitutes Viable Reasons For Thinking About Or Wanting A Divorce?

Karl Augustine

According to the Center for Disease Control's National Vital Statistics Report of 2002, 50% of first marriages ended in divorce and 60% of remarriages end in divorce. But, the Center for Disease Control also found that 96% of Americans express a personal desire for marriage, and almost three-quarters of Americans believe marriage is a life long commitment. I imagine that there are somewhat similar statistics worldwide. With these kinds of statistics, its easy to see how complex it can be when people think they want a divorce, they have difficulty identifying how a truly viable divorce reason might be defined. Wanting happiness through marriage and wrestling with what may seem an inevitable outcome (a divorce), can be emotionally and mentally challenging.

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Marriage Problem; Is Your Marriage Problem Severe Enough To Warrant Getting A Divorce?

Karl Augustine

Having a marriage problem can be agonizing especially if you're trying to do all you can to make your marriage work. Depending on how your marriage was prior to thinking that you had a marriage problem, you could be in for a hurtful time if you don't take a step back and look at your marriage problem from a "helicopter" viewpoint. To do that, you're going to need to try to limit your emotional stake in the situation which admittedly is a difficult thing to do.The first step in getting over a marriage problem is to remember that you aren't alone, lots of couples have marriage problems that stem from all kinds of different types of behavior. Here's a partial list of marriage problems that you may or may not be experiencing:Marriage problem #1: Lack of sexual intimacy - a serious issue that you must work through in my opinion if your going to work it out.Marriage problem #2: Exploding during an argument, getting too emotional and letting your temper get the best of you - you need to learn to work together and you can't do that if one of you is getting too heated.Marriage problem #3: Being selfish - eventually this will catch up to you. You should always think of your partner when you think of yourself.Marriage problem #4: Being dishonest - another serious issue.

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ElderLife Matters For Caregivers and Employers

Linda LaPointe

Work & eldercare is a difficult marriage for the half of all employees who are caring for an aging loved one. You may know the facts:

• The cost of absenteeism, shortened or interrupted work days is $29 billion a year.
• The cost of replacing employees who leave due to eldercare responsibilities is $4.93 billion a year.
• Many spend up to 8 hours per week on the phone with eldercare issues, come in late & take more time off.
• One half of employees care for dependent adults.
• Three fourths of elder caregivers are in the workforce.
• One third of caregivers acknowledge their eldercare responsibilities interfere with work.

These issues not only concern the employer, they also greatly concern the employee who wants to do a good job. Yet most caregivers don’t know what kind of help or information to ask for and often tell Linda LaPointe, CaregiverCoach, “It’s difficult to concentrate on a project when I feel like you should make a call or stop in to check on Mom & Dad.” “Education is the key,” LaPointe says, “so caregivers have some idea what to expect and how to help.” Having seen both sides of the aging situation as a former administrator and now as a Geriatric Care Manager, Linda LaPointe remembers the day she knew what she would do to help families in crisis. She tells us about it: The 60ish man looked to be assisting his father from the passenger side of the car, when he suddenly and shockingly, in one swift movement, slammed the car door, leapt to the sidewalk and yelled, “You old f------ son of a b------!”, leaving the older man in the car.

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One Woman’s Story of How Her Smile Increased Her Confidence

Kathleen Gage

For one who takes pride in being involved with different community organizations, possessing a high level of confidence is essential. Especially when that involvement includes speaking to large and small groups requesting donations for numerous non-profit organizations. Such is the case with Teresa Bock, Assistant Vice President of Wells Fargo Bank’s Olympus Hills Office in Salt Lake City. Not only is confidence a key to her success with all the community work she does, it is vital in her professional position. When one first meets Teresa, they encounter a woman who is constantly smiling.

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Feng Shui Fertility: Six Ways to Create More "Baby Chi"

Kathryn Weber

Today, feng shui is used for everything from arranging office cubicles to gaining more recognition at work to helping aspiring writers become more prolific. But what if what you want is a baby? When you are trying to conceive, feng shui can be another tool in your fertility arsenal.Fertility is such a delicate thing because it can be affected so easily. This is where feng shui can come help. Feng shui can help create a more balanced, harmonious – and relaxed – environment for conception to occur. Obviously, the first place to look at is the home.

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Let's Talk About Impotency

Oneil Wilson

Many men are experiencing problems getting rock hard erections. There are three ways that men can get over this, penis enlargement pills, viagra or natural enlargement techniques. All three will help with the problem. Below you will find an article which discusses viagra and one mans problem with impotency. Today, I got a chance to talk to Simon Ellison 35, about over coming one of mans worst fears: 'Erectile Dysfunction' (ED). EA: Hiya Simon, Would you like to introduce yourself? SE: Certainly.

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Legal Protection for Same-Sex Couples

Johnette Duff

Has anyone considered a compromise solution to the issue of legalization of same-sex marriages? As an attorney who has spent years conducting research on the advantages and disadvantages of marriage vs. living together, my viewpoint is a legal one, unobscured by religious or moral questions. Legal recognition of a status for these couples is called for, as is their current need for self-help in making the laws work for them while they are still in flux. Traditionally and legally, marriage has been defined as a union of a man and woman. Changing that definition is at the heart of the problem. Marriage, throughout history, has had more to do with procreation than romantic love or legal convenience.

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The legal fiction of common law marriage

Johnette Duff

During a radio-talk show appearance, a caller told me about his unfortunate brush with the legal fiction of common-law marriage. He had been living with a woman for several weeks when he came home one evening to find the woman, his TV and assorted other property missing. He called the police, who mistakenly informed him that the woman was his common-law wife and so they couldn’t help him. What qualifies as a common-law marriage? Take your pick:

1. Leaving too many clothes at your girlfriend’s house?
2. Living together six months
3. Living together seven years?

Chances are you picked the third answer, but all three response are equally wrong. A common misconception is that the length of cohabitation creates common-law status. This is not true. Three elements are necessary and none relate to a time-frame.

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Divorce: Coping With The Family Law Process

Charles M. Goldstein

The Emotions Divorce is a scary, lonely and misunderstood process for most people, particularly when there are children involved. The mutual friends enjoyed during the marriage may not be of help because those individuals may not want to "pick a side." A divorce will introduce you to an entirely new balancing act. The Effect on Productivity at Work You must be conscious of how the divorce process affects your ability to function on your job. There may be occasions when you will feel overwhelmed by a typical day's workload. On such occasions, you may wish to apportion work in terms of what you can handle. You may at times find yourself uncharacteristically testy and acerbic to friends and colleagues, uncommunicative, depressed, and distracted. You should try to be alert to these personality and mood changes and work with a counselor to solve them.

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’Tis the Season to be Bridal - Upcoming Bridal Shows and Wedding Season Kicks Off This Week in Cincinnati, Dayton and Southwest Ohio

January is the start of what wedding vendors across the Tri-State area call “wedding season.” During the next few months, brides-to-be from all over Southwest Ohio will attend bridal shows, meet with countless wedding vendors and ultimately walk down the aisle. According to The Knot, the nation’s top wedding resource, their average bride is 27 years old and Eighty-six percent of those brides, engaged for roughly 13 months, are getting married for the first time. Kathy Piech-Lukas, a certified wedding consultant and owner of Your Dream Day LLC, says that November and December are the most popular months of the year for couples to get engaged. She adds that wedding planning is a stressful and detail-oriented process and that it is extremely important to get everything in writing. While some brides think that having a bridal consultant is a luxury, Piech-Lukas stresses that it’s a necessity that is more affordable that people think.

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