Communication Inside & Outside Marriage
The four levels of communication generally applied outsideof marriage can make a huge difference to how well you relate to yoru partner inside marriage - if you know what they are.
Small Talk includes comments about the weather, current events or the surroundings you are in. Use it to determine the comfort zone between the two of you.
Once you are comfortable at this level, slip into the next level of communication: fact disclosure. This level is slightly deeper than small talk and is used to find out if you have something in common, for example - occupation, hobbies, where you live, etc. Use open-ended questions to find a topic that interests you both.
When you find a topic of mutual interest, start sharing viewpoints and opinions. This makes you vulnerable, so only enter this level of communication once you are comfortable that you both share positive feelings through the first two levels. Be prepared to listen to the other person's opinions as well as give your own - but keep them positive.
If you are forming a bond, you may eventually enter into the fourth level of communication: sharing personal feelings. Only solid friendships survive this far. After building upon trust, finding things in common and listening to the viewpoints and opinions of others, you may be able to share your personal feelings.
This is where an acquaintance becomes a genuine friend. You know that despite having differing opinions and viewpoints you can trust your friend’s judgement, and may go to them for advice.
Small Talk includes comments about the weather, current events or the surroundings you are in. Use it to determine the comfort zone between the two of you.
Once you are comfortable at this level, slip into the next level of communication: fact disclosure. This level is slightly deeper than small talk and is used to find out if you have something in common, for example - occupation, hobbies, where you live, etc. Use open-ended questions to find a topic that interests you both.
When you find a topic of mutual interest, start sharing viewpoints and opinions. This makes you vulnerable, so only enter this level of communication once you are comfortable that you both share positive feelings through the first two levels. Be prepared to listen to the other person's opinions as well as give your own - but keep them positive.
If you are forming a bond, you may eventually enter into the fourth level of communication: sharing personal feelings. Only solid friendships survive this far. After building upon trust, finding things in common and listening to the viewpoints and opinions of others, you may be able to share your personal feelings.
This is where an acquaintance becomes a genuine friend. You know that despite having differing opinions and viewpoints you can trust your friend’s judgement, and may go to them for advice.
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